Pussy Pleasure 101

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Photo by Chuttersnap on Unsplash

Please note that this is an article for people with lady bits or people who like to play with them. If pussies aren’t involved it’s still a good information, but won't lead to the same face-meltingly awesome results. For the sake of brevity, I will use “she”, “her”, and “women”, to refer to the person with the lady-bits, but this is meant for anyone with a vagina or a female-style sexual response.


SLOW DOWN.

Slow the fuck down!

Take your time.

Touch deliberately, letting each contact linger.

Thrust slowly.

Take time before penetrating deeply or before penetrating at all.

In general, women’s bodies take 10-30 minutes of foreplay before they are ready for penetration. The amount of time will vary depending on the woman, how long you’ve been together, how stressed she is, where she is in her monthly cycle, and a bajillion other things.

Note: 10-30 min is IN GENERAL. 2 min-2 hours is also in the range of normal.

In addition, just because she’s getting a bit wet DOESN’T mean she’s ready for penetration. A pussy is a beautiful, complex set of complementary organs not just a vagina. She blossoms like a flower. She slowly swells, starting with the labia, then gradually opens deeper and deeper.

The entrance to her vagina might be totally ready to rock but the area right around her cervix still may need more time before accepting a visitor. Yes there is usually some wetness throughout this process, but there is usually a lot else that needs to happen too before she’s actually ready.

Rule of thumb: Wait until she’s dying to be penetrated/sopping wet/already had an orgasm before putting anything inside her body. If you find yourself reaching for the lube, she probably just needs more time.

There’s a place for quickies, for hard and fast. But if that’s the default note of your sexual experience you’re missing out on a whole range of music you could be playing.

Ladies, taking your time will let you milk every drop of pleasure out of your sexual experience.

It lets each nerve feel everything it can possibly feel, which will make your experience far more pleasurable and orgasmic.

If orgasming from penetration is a challenge for you, try asking your partner to slow down and thrust longer. Sometimes it takes 20-40 minutes of penetration at a variety of speeds for a cervical orgasm to happen. Women’s bodies are just built for slowness.

However, taking it slow helps men and people with cocks too. Going slowly develops stamina and allows for a new orgasmic experiences. (aka multiple orgasms for men… but that’s an article for another day)

Coming from an overflow of gentle, slow stimulation is a VERY different experience than busting a nut from a quickie. Even if going slow doesn’t sound good to your cock for whatever reason, there are A LOT of things that can give pleasure to a woman. Use this opportunity as a license to get creative.

I didn’t write out step-by-step instructions for this because slowing down is pretty self-explanatory. However, it can be bit hard in the heat of the moment to not slip into the same old pattern you’ve been doing for most of your sex-life. So here’s a useful exercise:

Try setting a timer for 30-60 minutes, or whatever is double however long your normal sexual encounters are. See if you can slow things down enough to keep making love until the timer rings.

It may seem a bit rigid to fuck to a timer. However, I have seen over and over again in my clients and in myself that when people with lady bits get to slow down amazing things happen. Just by following a more luxurious and sensual sexual script with a woman, mind-blowing pleasure, powerful orgasms, and incredible intimacy can follow.


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