Sex as Sanctuary

When you treat sex as a sanctuary it becomes more than just periodic release. All emotions and experiences can be welcome there. Anger, sadness, joy, grief, tears, laughter… all have a place in the bedroom.

When you allow your emotions to manifest physically, they flow through you. They don’t stagnate in your heart and affect your life. The limits to your healing and growth are defined by the limits of what you let yourself feel. By surrendering deeply to your feelings, you develop the capacity to heal yourself from whatever comes your way.

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The Orgasmic Elixir of Sexual Energy

Have you ever had an energy orgasm? Chakra-gasm? Full-body orgasm? By incorporating your sexual energy into sex you can discover a whole array of new orgasmic experiences.

“Sexual energy” may sound a bit New Age-y to some, but we commonly refer to this concept in our culture. We use phrases like “feeling a spark”, “having chemistry”, “feeling magnetic”, and “turn-on” to describe it. It’s that mysterious, sparkly quality that underlies sexual attraction and intercourse.

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Organic Sex: 3 Ingredients to All-Natural Pleasure

It can be fun to incorporate toys and other outside elements, but they are by no means essential. There are many ways to enhance your sexual experience that are totally free and have no side-effects.

You were born with everything that you need for incredibly amazing sex. There are of course many components to this, so I’ve broken it down into a handful of key ingredients. This article will introduce just three.


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The REAL Purpose of Meditation (Hint: It’s not to “stop thinking”)

The purpose isn’t to “not think.” The purpose is to train your brain to flip a U-turn, to recognize when you are getting distracted, turn around, and refocus.

This obviously is great training for a hyper-distracted world. However, the results of this exercise can be much more powerful than that. The experiential knowledge that lays “between-the-lines” is that…

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The Ultimate Cockblocker: Sexual Repression

Some of the experiences you had years ago might still be held in your body and show up during sex. Experiences like painful sex in your early encounters, shaming of your sexuality by religion, or being yelled at for masturbating as a child can color your sexual experience today. This is of course compounded for survivors of sexual assault. Just one moment of threatened sexual assault can hamper a person’s sexuality for years after.

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Divine Orgasm: How to Make Love to a God/dess

From natural elements such as water or fire to deities such as Athena or Lakshmi, if you can connect to something on a deep, energetic level you can make love to it.

Sex is an inherently energetic experience and incorporating additional flavors of energy is a natural fit. Bringing a new energetic signature or essence into a sexual episode launches you into a whole new realm of experience and pleasure.

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What is Sacred Sexuality?

The primary way of having some type of spiritual experience is to connect to the Divine in some way. More traditional ways of doing this are things like prayer, ritual, and fasting. But, if everything is sacred, than anything you do can potentially bring this connection. This includes things like folding laundry, scrubbing toilets, going to work, sitting in traffic, and having an orgasm.

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