Choose Your Own Adventure: Relationship Styles and Spiritual Growth

Like nature’s ecosystems, each of us needs a different type of romatic/sexual/emotional environment to flourish. Some of us are like desert plants that become their best with just the occasional watering of a fuck-buddy or a one-night stand. Others are rainforest plants that need a deluge of love and connection on a daily basis to thrive. Many are somewhere in between.

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Want Better Sex? Masturbate More

You probably do a lot in the name of wellness and health. Exercising, eating well, getting enough sleep, etc. But even the biggest health nuts are probably missing out on one of the best things you can possibly do to benefit yourself. By having a regular self-pleasure (aka masturbation) practice you can massively improve your sexual experience and keep it that way for life.

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It's Just a Story: The #1 Cause of Pain and Suffering and How to Transcend It

Stories are beliefs, ideologies, and opinions that you tell yourself over and over. We tell them to ourselves and each other to express something, usually pain, but they don’t carry real wisdom. Stories may be factually true or not true, but no matter what they do not serve you. You can get so caught up in the details you can’t let go.

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Sex as Sanctuary

When you treat sex as a sanctuary it becomes more than just periodic release. All emotions and experiences can be welcome there. Anger, sadness, joy, grief, tears, laughter… all have a place in the bedroom.

When you allow your emotions to manifest physically, they flow through you. They don’t stagnate in your heart and affect your life. The limits to your healing and growth are defined by the limits of what you let yourself feel. By surrendering deeply to your feelings, you develop the capacity to heal yourself from whatever comes your way.

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The Orgasmic Elixir of Sexual Energy

Have you ever had an energy orgasm? Chakra-gasm? Full-body orgasm? By incorporating your sexual energy into sex you can discover a whole array of new orgasmic experiences.

“Sexual energy” may sound a bit New Age-y to some, but we commonly refer to this concept in our culture. We use phrases like “feeling a spark”, “having chemistry”, “feeling magnetic”, and “turn-on” to describe it. It’s that mysterious, sparkly quality that underlies sexual attraction and intercourse.

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